10 Things
By Tilly Rivers.
A similar version was published in Cosmo Magazine, earlier this year.
Ten things every man should know about women….
The first rule always to follow is this: never do anything that both of you are not open and comfortable with. Ask. And ask again…..
1. Focus. When a woman feels beautiful, she acts, becomes beautiful. Her confidence grows, her boldness, daring elevates. She is not scared to reveal (in her mind) those knobby knees, and not so cute elbows. She feels beautiful from the inside out. “I like my body when it is with your body; it is quite a new thing. Muscles better and nerve more. I like your body. I like what it does, I like its hows. I like to feel the spine of your body and its bones, and the trembling-firm-smoothness. This I will again and again and again kiss. I like kissing this and that of you-I like slowly stroking the shocking fuzz of your electric fur, and what-is-it comes over parting flesh…big eyes, big love crumbs, and possibly I like the thrill of you under me. So quite new. –e.e. cummings-
2. Time. Taking the time to explore the ‘whole’ package of a woman will reap you rewards. Caress, feel, and absorb her body. A woman knows the difference (just as a man does) between a selfish “wam bam’, get my rocks off, about me (this can never be faked no matter how good you think you are at covering it up) for me, god I guess I have to give foreplay: attention. When she feels how much you are into her, she will give that back a hundred fold. The fact that men can’t visibly see when (unlike themselves) a woman is turned off, as we do not loose an erection, tends to confuse men and hurry things, as a result they miss out on a woman’s full passion ability.
3. Communication. Tell her what turns you on. Before. During, after sex. Women as a rule are vain creatures and want to hear how ‘hot’ only she is making you. Again be careful. It is better to be silent if you do not mean it. This can not be faked either. If a woman seems under active, it is often because she is scared of doing the wrong thing, like touching him when he is trying not to cum. Tell us if you see us at a loss.
4. The importance of knowing a woman intimately. Tenderness. Constant awareness of what your partner is feeling. Lovers should learn to watch one another masturbate, to explore, learn, and give. Freely. To taste. (Cossolette) the natural perfume of a woman.
5. Confidence. The tough-tender mixture. Inner strength not outward muscle, the essence of you, not the physical attributes, knowing he is confident, carries himself accordingly is a real turn on for a woman. That isn’t to say that ‘clumsy’ moments can not happen or be fun while having sex (for example head into wall) when you are relaxed, open and confident with your partner you will be able to laugh at these moments and go on.
6. Balance. Rough or Gentle? Both. One. The mood will shift, and when your know your partner you will be able to sense it. Strength-skill-control. There should be times when you are happy to let him do every thing and others when you need to control. Great sex can be wildly violent but never cruel. No one can be a good lover if they do not regard their partner as an equal; the ‘divine gift of lechery’ makes the ideal lover. Equal passion.
7. Presume. Never think that what excites one will work just as well for another. Relearn each other’s bodies. The main ‘parts’ may be the same, but their ‘sensitive or trigger zones’ will vary. If you presume you will have a neutral passive ‘taking’ of the other instead of mutual sharing passion. Fire.
8. Breasts. A lot of men still do not understand about breasts. They hurry. For some women her nipples are a direct hot line to her clitoris. Palm brushing, eye lid brushing, licking, sucking, breast stimulus (head to tail, her on top, man sitting woman kneeling) are a major turn on for a lot of women.
9. The butt is recorded to be a major erogenous zone in both sexes. This requires stronger stimulation, holding, kneading, slapping, and taking her from behind. Each of these acts are pleasures in them selves.
10. Skin. Touch. The smell and feel of a man’s skin probably has more to do with the attraction / repulsion than any other feature. Skin stimulation is a major factor. Touch. Texture. Temperature. Taste.
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